Szókincs fejlesztés: How To Prepare for Business Conversations
A mai modern világunkban egyre fontosabb a hatékony kommunikáció mind a munkában, mind a magánéletünkben. A mostani rövid cikk éppen azokról a beszélgetésekről szól, amelyeket bár nehezünkre esik megejteni kollégánkkal, főnökünkkel, családtagunkkal vagy párunkkal, de előbb-utóbb át kell esnünk rajta, hogy megkönnyítsük saját életünket. Az ilyen nehéz beszélgetések megfelelő kivitelezéséhez nyújt segítséget ez az írás. A vastagon húzott szavakat magyar jelentéseit pedig a szöveg legvégén találjátok.
Consider the following real-life scenario a client found herself in – we’ll call her Stacy.
Stacy had gotten a new job and needed to tell her current boss she was planning to leave. Whenever she brought it up, her boss was patronizing, like he thought it was a negotiation or didn’t believe that she really had an offer. She told me, “He kept treating me like I was his daughter asking for a pony, saying, ‘We’ll talk about this tomorrow.’” She didn’t want to have to keep putting off her new employer about a start date.
Here’s what I would have recommended in that situation.
- Decide to have the difficult conversation.
The first step in these types of situations is to (sometimes begrudgingly) decide that it’s time for the uncomfortable conversation. For many of my clients, this comes from the recognition that if you do nothing, the status quo will likely continue. Or, as author Erin Morgenstern describes it, “We must put effort and energy into anything we wish to change.”
Realistically, Stacy couldn’t avoid the difficult conversation for long. She wasn’t going to stay in her job forever or just disappear one day, so she had to let her boss know that she was, in fact, leaving.
- Strategize and practice with a trusted mentor, coach or friend.
When emotions are running high – as they usually are in a difficult conversation – it can be difficult to get your words to come out right. When I’m in a situation where I can’t quite see a way out on my own, I rely on unbiased folks who know me well, can offer perspective and help me decide how to respond.
While it can feel comically awkward at first, practicing with a trusted friend is among the best ways to determine what language feels comfortable.
Based on Stacy’s description of her boss, this was a guy who readily dismissed her. Had we had a conversation, I might have suggested she schedule a time on his calendar and use her official resignation letter as a way to communicate her decisiveness, delivering it in-person in the meeting as well as via email.
- Recognize the emotions that are coming up for you.
Your emotions are an important – and often an undervalued – aspect of professional decision-making. Often, a client will come to me with what seems to them to be a straightforward career question or negotiation. As we begin talking, almost invariably the situation brings up significant emotions that impact the client’s experience and decision-making ability.
It’s only once we’re present with those emotions that we can effectively move through them.
For Stacy, her frustration with the job overall may have been brought into even greater focus with these unproductive exchanges with her boss. She was likely feeling undervalued and disrespected. Her fears of further rejection from her boss may have also made it more difficult to initiate that difficult conversation.
There are two things to note here: whatever emotions come up are valid, and they can affect your behavior and decision-making.
- Try a visualization.
Prior to a past difficult conversation of my own, my yoga instructor Mikhayla Anderson taught me this simple and lovely visualization in which you use colors as a force of protection and stability.
I first used it when I was filled with dread about initiating a difficult conversation with a man who regularly made me uncomfortable with inappropriate comments and touch. By using this visualization immediately prior to the conversation, I felt greater confidence – grounded in myself and my perspective.
As I used it in other situations, the visualization allowed me to be more at peace with the energy and effort required to change my situation. I’ve continued to use it as a tool with friends and clients who are struggling and would have encouraged Stacy to try it out.
Ultimately, Stacy successfully initiated her difficult conversation and finally made it clear to her boss that she was leaving. It was likely a frustrating process for her, and while he made the resignation more uncomfortable, he had little choice but to accept her departure.
When you find yourself in a situation that requires a difficult conversation, strive to strategize with a buddy, recognize your emotions, and use a visualization. This process can help you walk into these encounters feeling more centered and confident.
to consider – figyelembe vesz
real-life scenario – reális forgatókönyv
to bring something up – felhozni valamilyen témát
to patronize – leereszkedően viselkedni
negotiation – tárgyalás
recognition – felismerés
to strategize – megtervezni
unbiased – elfogulatlan
perspective – nézőpont
resignation letter – felmondólevél
decisiveness – határozottság
undervalued – alulértékelt
aspect – nézőpont
invariably – változatlanul
prior to something – valamit megelőzően
perspective – perspektíva
to initiate – kezdeményezni
Legfrissebbek tőle: Birinyi Balázs (Mutasd mindet)
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